There are times when it may seem as though the easiest option is to avoid talking about certain subjects. When an aging family member has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, there are probably going to be numerous questions, not just about things that should be done here and now, but what level of support will be required in the future.
What does the senior want?
Many adult children, siblings, and even a spouse of somebody who has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s want them to be safe. They certainly want them to be comfortable, and as they learn more about this particular form of dementia, the various signs and symptoms that will progress over time, and what they can expect in the coming years, they have a tendency to start focusing more and more on what will provide the best security and safety for that elderly loved one.
In far too many situations today, family members take it upon themselves to offer this level of support. It seems like a reasonable solution. After all, a spouse may have taken his or her vows seriously to be there for his or her husband or wife “in sickness and in health,” until the end.
Then, something happens.
As the days progress and become weeks and then months and then years, that primary support system becomes overwhelmed. It could be a spouse in her 70s or 80s or a series of family members and friends, possibly even neighbors, all coming together to help out and they realize they are over-matched.
They didn’t anticipate the full impact Alzheimer’s was going to have.
Even though it may seem relatively mild shortly after diagnosis, memory loss can impact daily life, but not to the point where physical or verbal aggression is a possibility and not to the point where that individual requires 24/7 monitoring to ensure they don’t wander or get themselves into some type of trouble, eventually every family will feel the direct impact of providing care themselves.
What lesson can be taken from these scenarios?
There are thousands upon thousands of people who have no prior experience supporting somebody with Alzheimer’s trying to do that very thing. What many of these individuals realize, often too late, is that proper care options should have been discussed as early as possible.
Understanding what the senior would prefer, especially as early as possible, can lay the groundwork for helping their loved ones make the best decisions when they are no longer mentally capable of taking sound advice.
If you or an aging loved one are considering Alzheimer’s care in Salisbury, NC, contact the caring professionals at TenderHearted Home Care today. Call us at 704-612-4132
I have enjoyed volunteering my time as the President of the Rowan County Home School Association, assisting with the Parkinson’s Support Group, Walk to End Alzheimer’s, Pregnancy Support Center, MOPS International, Capstone Recovery Center, Kairos Outside, Celebrate Recovery, various church committees and going on a mission trip to Moldova. I am a member of the Rowan County Council on Aging, Meals on Wheels board member, REACH of Rowan County, HIPSS of Davidson County, Second Tuesday Business Group and several Christian Business Life Groups.
I am passionate about serving others and providing the most compassionate care possible, as I would want for my own family. I love relaxing with my husband, Peter, and my two dogs, Yoyo and Terra Cotta.
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