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Avoid the ‘If Only’ Scenario When a Family Member Needs Care

Looking back, are there things you regret? Most of us have regrets, and for those who become family caregivers, those regrets can be difficult to deal with. After all, when an aging parent or other person in the family needs assistance, if they get the best level of care and support right from the start, it can make all the difference in the world.

Caregiver Stress in Kannapolis NC: Avoid the ‘If Only’ Scenario

Caregiver Stress in Kannapolis NC: Avoid the ‘If Only’ Scenario

There are plenty of ways to avoid these ‘if only’ scenarios.

One of the most effective and easiest is to hire home care support. A home care aide, especially somebody who works for an agency and has a great deal of experience, will often easily be able to step into just about any situation. They will analyze circumstances, the home for safety issues, and sit down and have an open and honest conversation with their elderly client.

This conversation can highlight a number of challenges the senior is facing, their desires, their tips for the next several weeks or months, and that can lay the foundation for solid care.

It’s also a good idea to seek out support groups.

If a family member, whether it’s an adult child, spouse, or somebody else, is adamant about helping out, there will come a time when they have to confront the stress in their life. Being a caregiver for somebody in need is difficult. It doesn’t matter what that person has going on in the rest of their life; they will begin to experience stress that affects every aspect of life.

By connecting with other family caregivers and those who have done this type of work before, it can provide a great deal of insight into strategies, tips, and offer an emotional connection that is much-needed during this type of environment.

It is also vital to learn to say, “I’m sorry.”

There are going to be times when a person yells at their elderly parent. There will be times when they get frustrated, when they get angry, and when it feels as though everything is going against them. Learning to say, “I’m sorry,” is important for not just healing oneself, but also moving the relationship to a healthier level.

Being stubborn, feeling righteous indignation, or simply being adamant that this wasn’t your fault is only going to increase the stress you endure, but also impact the relationship in a negative way.

There are going to be numerous challenges as a family caregiver, and trying to avoid as many of those ‘if only’ situations can start right at the beginning.

If you or an aging loved one are considering home care to reduce caregiver stress in Kannapolis, NC, contact the caring professionals at TenderHearted Home Care today. Call us at 704-612-4132

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Renee Gray

Founder, Owner, President at TenderHearted Home Care
As Founder, Owner & President of TenderHearted Home Care, I have always had a heart for helping others. I started with babysitting while a teenager, assisting the mentally disabled in a work environment for 10 years, homeschooling my two sons, serving others for 9 years while employed through the local hospital and since 2011 have been focused on helping seniors to maintain their independence in the comfort of their own home. I am a Certified Senior Care Manager (CSCM) as designated by the Association of Care Services At Home (

I have enjoyed volunteering my time as the President of the Rowan County Home School Association, assisting with the Parkinson’s Support Group, Walk to End Alzheimer’s, Pregnancy Support Center, MOPS International, Capstone Recovery Center, Kairos Outside, Celebrate Recovery, various church committees and going on a mission trip to Moldova. I am a member of the Rowan County Council on Aging, Meals on Wheels board member, REACH of Rowan County, HIPSS of Davidson County, Second Tuesday Business Group and several Christian Business Life Groups.

I am passionate about serving others and providing the most compassionate care possible, as I would want for my own family. I love relaxing with my husband, Peter, and my two dogs, Yoyo and Terra Cotta.

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